MUMBAI: Actress Raviraa Bhardwaj, who plays the role of Urmila in the show 'Aukaat Se Jyada', says that the reason for the rising number of divorces today is that people don’t spend time with each other. She adds that nowadays people have more pressure in their professional lives as well, and everything contributes to things going down in your personal life.
“I believe one key reason is that couples today aren't able to spend as much time with each other as they used to in the past. When two ambitious individuals come together, their personal and professional responsibilities can drive a wedge between them. It’s not always the case, but it's become more common lately,” she says.
She adds, “The shift away from traditional lifestyles is one of the reasons. With so many options available today and an increased focus on personal vanity, people are focusing more on themselves rather than spending time with their partners. This shift in priorities has indeed contributed to the rise in divorce cases.”
She says that things such as social media have also contributed to this change. “Social media plays a big role in this. People are constantly exposed to new options, and instead of working on their own relationships, they are quick to move on to new ones. This creates a problem. Relationships require consistency and effort; without that, the endless options can make it hard to settle down,” he says.
Some people say women empowerment is one of the major reasons for high divorce rates in India. But she does not agree. “I don't think women empowerment is the cause. What may be a factor is the mindset that women need to be above or equal to men, or that career success is more important than marriage. Women have always been emotionally stronger, nurturing, and capable of balancing their personal and professional lives. It's not empowerment but rather a misinterpretation of it that sometimes leads people down the wrong path,” she says.
She adds that effort is important in relationships. “Every relationship—whether it’s marriage, friendship, or even the bond between parents and children—requires effort from both sides. It’s never just one person giving or taking. There needs to be a natural balance of compromise and understanding for things to work, just like the saying goes: "You can't clap with one hand,” she says.
She adds, “Divorce is never solely the fault of one person. It’s the result of friction on both sides. However, only the two people in the relationship truly understand what's going on, so it’s a deeply personal matter. Sometimes, like marriage, divorce is also a necessary and positive outcome. There’s nothing worse than two people staying under the same roof but not connecting mentally. So while one person might take a bigger hit emotionally, the responsibility lies with both.”
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